Which type of woman are you?

"Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless. But I will rejoice even if I lose my life, pouring it out like a liquid offering to God, just like your faithful service is an offering to God. And I want all of you to share that joy. Yes, you should rejoice, and I will share your joy."-Philippians 2:14-18

God has really been putting this verse on my heart lately. Its such a good verse to live by. I think everybody in Texas are having a hard time not complaining in this heat but its something that important to God and to our loved ones.

"It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home."-Proverbs 25:24

That may sound harsh but its true. As women we strive to make our homes welcoming by picking out the perfect paint color and the nicest furniture and take hours trying to figure out the best way to arrange it. We try so hard to make out homes welcoming for guest but what about our husbands? Are we making him feel welcomed and peaceful in him home? It is our jobs a wives to encourage our husbands and make our home peaceful for our children.

"A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands." -Proverbs14:1

We may be working hard to make our homes look good physically but are we tearing them down emotionally.

Believe it or not I used to be a husband basher. I would talk bad and complain about my husband constantly to friends family and just about anyone who would listen. I talk about all the things that I had asked him to do and how he never did them. I would make fun of the things that he did and said. Sounds bad, I know but I really saw no harm in it. "Surely these people know that I do love him." I would tell myself. Until one day I was at work and I was on a tirade. I was just going on and on and some of the other women I worked with had joined in complaining about there husbands. We were all worked up in a tizzy complaining and laughing and making fun until an older lady spoke up. I had noticed she didn't have any input the whole time and just seemed to be listening and taking it all in. She looked at me and said "If you hate your husband so much then why are you still married to him?" I could not believe she would say such a thing! I loved my husband very much and I never wanted to not be married to him. The it hit me. If I love him I need to act like it. I realized that I was going to have to have a major attitude change. After that I made a promise to myself that no matter how much I get frustrated with David and no matte how many of my friends are bashing there husband I would not say anything negative about him. Instead I would say something good about him. Its been hard and Ive even grown distant from some friends because of it but my marriage and greatly benefited from it. Times when I was being o negative it made it hard to get along. I had no patience and no grace. Now I'm happy to get to spend time with my husband and look forward to it when we get to just sit and talk. My husband looks forward to coming home. Not because how nice and clean and beautiful it is but because I make him feel welcome. I make an effort to love on him and build him up before he has to go out into the world again.

"A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones."-Proverbs 12:4

Are you a worthy wife or a disgraceful one? I am happy to say that I am striving to be a worthy one.