A Gold Ring in a Pig's Snout

Oh my closet is so bare! We will hopefully be moving soon and I suddenly got the strong urge to complete rid my closet of anything that I don't wear. It was ridiculous! I had two huge trash bags FULL of clothes. One bag went to a friend who has a teenage daughter and the other will be added to my mom garage sale stuff. I couldn't believe some of the things that I had been hoding on to.

• Clothes from my freshman year of high school

• Clothes that don't fit

• Clothes that are worn out or faded

• Clothes that were too hootchie for a street walker (from my wilder days)

I made up my mind one way to be modest is to get rid of all the questionable clothes. Modesty is something that I struggle with regularly. I know that modesty is part of being a woman of God but at the same time my human desire is to be noticed. As a woman I want to be found beautiful and the world tells me beautiful is being hot and sexy and showing what you've got. Well I made up my mind about a year ago that I was not going to seek the ways of the world but the ways of God. He is my reason for living and if I am not seeking to please Him my life is empty.

Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10

I am tired of trying to win the approval of men. The truth is you can never win the approval of men. when i say men I mean this world. No matter how sexy you try to be there is always someone who will be sexier.


Back in the day when I dressed sexy I would tell myself and my husband that I was just following fashion. That i just wanted to dress "in style". Now thinking back the reason that I dressed the way I did was strictly to get attention. You can think what you want about me but I when I got dressed before we went out I consciously made the decision to wear the shirt that showed a little too much cleavage or the shorts that showed off my legs or the heels that made me look...well hot. I'm not saying that being sexy for your husband is bad. You should do that for him but its the being sexy for other people's husband is were we go wrong and that's what happens when you go out in public like that. When I dressed like that I wanted everyman to want me and I wanted every woman to want to be me. Now it sounds really messed up to me but at the time I thought there was nothing wrong with it. I wanted all eyes on me!

So some people might say well whats the harm in looking? "Men will be men." or "Its fine to look as long as you don't touch." Right? Wrong! The bible clearly addresses this in Matthew

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery. ²⁸ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -MATTHEW 5:27-28:

So what Matthew is say here is that if a man looks at you lustfully then it is the same as him committing adultery. So then you ask "Why is that my problem. He shouldn't look at me that way" Well men are very visual creatures and it is human nature to want to look. We are all sinful and there is not one person in this world that doesn't struggle with sin.

As it is written: “There is no one righteous, not even one;- Romans 3:10

So if we dress sexy to get attention then we are causing people to stumble.

So let's stop condemning each other. Decide instead to live in such a way that you will not cause another believer to stumble and fall.-Romans 14:23

Now that I have a close personal relationship with Christ I don't want to do anything to effect the walk that others have with him. Ive come to a place now in my relationship with God and my husband that my body was created for my husband to enjoy and for his eyes only. Let me tell you, it is so freeing! The Bible says whoever lives a sinful life is a slave to sin. I'm not saying that I am without sin and that I don't struggle with it but with an obedient heart sin no longer has a hold of me. I refuse to be a slave to sin or a slave to this world. God put this on my heart a few weeks ago. While reading my bible one morning this verse stuck out to me.

A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig's snout. Proverbs 11:22

I am proud to say that I am no longer a gold ring in a pig's snout!